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A little introduction.

Yesterday, someone’s profile on Facebook kept my attention. I didn’t know that person but did like the “philosophy” describing her motto. I then “kindly asked” to be able to share it. She nicely accepted. Thank you!
It is a real lesson of humility. I broke it down in two parts. One part for Shakespeare. The other part for Maya Angelou. Today, i am posting PartI giving my take on each subject. Here is the entire philosophy copied from her profile:

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Maya Angelou

“I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life. I’ve learned that making a “living” is not the same thing as making a “life.” I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back. I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one. I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn. I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Maya Angelou

Shakespeare

 

“I always feel happy, you know why? Because I don’t expect anything from anyone; expectations always hurt.. Life is short.. So love your life.. Be happy.. And Keep smiling.. Just Live for yourself and always remember: 

Before you speak… Listen. Before you write… Think. Before you spend… Earn
Before you pray… Forgive. Before you hurt… Feel. Before you hate… Love
Before you quit… Try. Before you die… Live” Shakespeare

 

“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”

“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.” 
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Now, here is my take on Shakespeare. Thank you in advance for your comments and subscriptions.

Before you speak… Listen.

Sometimes, i have to admit it, i do not listen. At the end, i always realize that I missed the whole point. Regrets! Regrets! Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Is it smart? Nope. Then why the heck don’t I listen before to speak? Who do I think I am for not giving to the other people the respect they deserve by paying attention and listening before to even try to say something? How can I be appreciated if I don’t show respect by listening or being always ready to listen? I have learned so far that it is of my interest to let the other people do the talking. Anyway, the more I listen, the more I will learn. The more I talk, the more I am raising my chance to let go an opportunity to growth. Now, before I ever speak, I will listen, analyze and listen again and again…

Before you write… Think

Do I really have something to say? Is it worth it? What would it be if I just delayed it and give myself enough time to think about it? Do I understand that once written and published, it’s no longer just about me? But it will concern each and every eye that read it? I am not going to write today, for I may hurt someone.
Before you spend… Earn

I remember that yesterday I was as broke as I was at my first breath on mother earth. I had only 10 dollars in my pocket. Actually, it was 1 dollars bill. The rest, I had to take my coins at the store to bill them up. I took a shower. Ride a train and a bus. I partied all night long. The next day, when I woke up tired at the first degree, I loaned 100 dollars and bought the last 1Million of Paco Rabane. I went on a date with the rest of the money to watch the last Harry potter. Now what? Nothing at all! I was spending money that I didn’t work to earn.

Today is a new day. Today, I have new resolutions. I will work hard but smarter than the 5th grade. And before to spend what I earn, I will save some. So, when tough time like what we are living nowadays comes, I will have resources to use. Wisely. Today I have learned that saving follow earning. And spending follow saving.
Before you pray… Forgive 

In God we trust. I love the dollar for its symbol. I think that’s what makes it the most desired currency on earth. No joke. Seriously, do you know how many people are dying and fighting for a dime or a penny? I would love to talk about it. But that’s not what calls us here.

We are talking about real believers. Not those like me, myself and I. I pray everyday. I am praying right now anyway. But I still hate some people. I want them to die, to fail, to be broke. I want them to loose their car, their house. I wish them to go to jail, to have big time problem with their manager and finally loose their job. Finish this prayer. If you are Muslim like me you would have finished your prayer by “Assalamou Aleikoum”. If you are Christian like most part of my mom’s family, you would have said “Amen”. It doesn’t matter whose prophet you believe in. What matters is that there are too many of us, including Me, myself and I, who hate or wish bad to others.

And we call ourselves believers. B.S. Let’s be ashamed if right now, yesterday or before we hope or have hoped badly someone to be unsuccessful. Let’s forgive people. Let’s build a new world with less haters and more lovers. Let’s understand each other. Let’s accept others like they are and not like we would want them to be or to appear. Let’s close our eyes and remember that we all will die one day. We owe to the earth kindness if we want kindness in return.

Let’s cultivate courtesy. Let’s not consent to massive destruction.

Right now, finishing this paragraph, I am solely asking each, everyone, myself and “everyself” to forgive. I am going to redo all my prayers. And remember that: “It doesn’t matter where you are coming from. All that matters is where you are going.” Brian Tracy.

Before you hurt… Feel

My girl friend is so complicated. I love her but I will let her go. It’s almost not possible to have a life with her. She doesn’t understand that I have female friends. She doesn’t understand that I go out without her. Seriously! I am gone. Now what? Man, last time, she went out with her male friend for dinner and they finally ended up partying all night. I stayed home because I wanted to show her that I can handle this situation. Situation what! It was the longest night I have ever spent in my whole life. I was suffering. I couldn’t even breathe. My throat has never been so dry despite the 3 gallons of water that I swallowed.

Suddenly, I felt how hurt and destroyed she has always been the more than 100 times I was out with her at home waiting with a love that only women have the secret.

I swear, i will never again do the same mistake. It ruined her. It was ruined our relationship. If I didn’t get the chance to feel the pain she was experienced, I would have done a big mistake.

Now, I have learned that whenever someone complains about my attitude or my behaviors, I will put myself in his or her position. Because I want to feel what they fear so I can avoid mistakes and misunderstandings.

Sorry, if I hurt. I just didn’t feel you.
Before you hate… Love

I love this quote: “You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself. Each reflection is an opportunity for growth. Cherie Carter-Scott

What a wonderful but scary truth. I love Cherie Carter-Scott. And I will be blogging soon on her book “If life is a game, these are the rules”.

From my understanding, here is what this can mean. You cannot hate someone before you know who that person is. But, since you will never know someone perfectly, you cannot allow yourself the luxurious pleasure to hate him or her. If, stupid, i nevertheless get to hate that person, it’s a reflection of my own stupidity. And anyway, I am therefore stupid twice. I am stupid because i should never hate him or her. I am also stupid because what makes me hate that person is in me. I am looking down to my shoes now. Here, there, underneath. Did I see it? No I didn’t. Why do I want him to see it then?
Before you quit… Try

I have so much regrets about my life. Every time that it has been hard, I quitted. Now I have learned that winners never quit. None of us would have quitted if there were an earthquake. How many times did we hear on the news people who survive after many days of natural disaster? Think about the Chilean miners who became heroes. How about the engineers who planned and executed their rescue operation? If there were no determination, courage and willingness to survive (then not to quit), they wouldn’t be enjoying life today. Think about people rescued many days after the earthquake in Haiti before you ever decide to quit. Winners never quit.
Before you die… Live”

What are you talking about? I am alive. So I am living. What life am i living? Bob Marley, the world greatest singer that the earth has ever produced said it well: “Are you satisfied with the life you are living?.”  Who did I ever help? What did I ever do to save the nature? Did I ever create something for the exclusive benefit of the community? Am I good for my people? Am I good for my city? Am I honest? Am I humble? Am I trying to reconciliate people when I see that their relationship is damaged? Am I saying “I am sorry” and really meaning it when I am wrong?

Am I always saying the truth, only the truth and for the one and only interest of the truth? Am I keeping the door for the next person? Am I saying “Thank you”? Am I saying “Hi” to my neighbor, in the elevator, at the office, to the valet at the restaurant? NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO.

My life is full and rich. I drive the last BMW. I do not care about others. Why should I? I have everything that I need. Why am I bothering myself to even consider someone else? I just do not care. I am living my life that I was to live. My family does not matter. Only me and my happiness are important. I do not have friends. Women love me and all want to be with me…

My life was good until the IRS gave me an opportunity to a second chance. The caught me… I went to jail. In jail, only my mom was visiting me. I had enough time to think and realize that the life that I meant to live was not the one that I was enjoying. For none of those who showed me love and consideration were there when I was in trouble. Instead, those I always denied respect and consideration helped me to build the life that I meant to live. Now if I die, I will have no regret. For I have lived. Let’s die now and get a second chance to live. Let’s close that chapter of our life

“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”

“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.” 

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